In my effort to inculcate independence in my kiddies, I have the tendency to encourage them to reach or to get their things on their own.
For instance, when they want (or I want them) to drink water, I'll tell them go to take their own water bottle and if they don't remember where they left it, I'll tell them to try and look for it themselves. The same goes for their potty or any other stuff that's within their reach.
However, the other day, I got a taste of my own medicine.
I was laying down and needed help from my elder one to help pass me my water bottle which was a few feet away from me.
And so I asked nicely : (Name)(name), can you help mama take mama water bottle there please. Thank you. (pointing at the direction of the water bottle).
and I do get a very nice reply : mama, mama need to learn to do things yourself. Mama, you can do it.
I still feeling lazy to wake up so I say : mama need (name) help cause mama not well, pain pain cannot stand up but mama thirsty and need to drink water.
He then asked me : Mama where pain pain? (like I always ask him when he's not well)
I lied : mama leg pain pain
So he went to grab my water bottle, passed it to me and said : mama you drink more water, then no more pain pain (just like I always tell him to drink more water so got no more sick).
I said : Thank you very much (name) for being helpful. Now, you go take your own bottle and drink together with mama, can?
I was lucky that he obliged and didn't use the 'reason' I used back on me.
This incident made me realized that children, they really learn alot from what you DO as opposed to what you PREACH.
As parents we are always being 'WATCHED' so we should try our best to lead by good example.
