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Happy Marriage
Every relationship requires a strong platform to achieve true and lasting happiness that can overcome adversities and challenges.
Below are some pointers to share which we have learnt during our marriage preparation course.
1. Love one self
Every individual has to love himself before others could love him.
When someone loves himself, with any failings and weaknesses that one had, he or she will feel at peace and confident with him or herself.
This will be a strong platform for a close relation with one's partner.
2. Love your partner
A healthy relationship is built if couples truly love one another.
Feelings of love usually conjure some romantic emotions but love is an emotion that has its ups and downs.
If couples truly love each other, comfortable with the thinking and habits of one another, possess the same hope and aspiration, the relationship will not be devoid of any deep and lasting love.
It is also important for one partner to express his love for another.
Tender words of encouragement and support with love will help built trust and respect between partners.
3. Making quality time
We usually give more time to important things.
At the onset of the relationship, couples automatically allow more time to be together. However, after getting married, and have children and bogged down by daily routine and work, time together become limited and far and between.
If couples do not spend time to be together, there is a possibility that the relationship will grow apart.
Allocating time together means giving up some other activities. However, it is an investment that will result in happiness and reap good rewards.
4. Communicate between partners
A good and effective communication is important in any health relationship.
Having good communication will enable you to tell your partner about yourself and your desire.
With communication, you and your partner can understand each other better.
A good communication will enable a person to express oneself openly and sincerely on matters close to the heart.
It also requires a person to hear what the partner has to say without maing judgements.
5. Argue well
Disagreement in marriage is normal.
It is important for couples to accept that each of us have attributes which are unique and different from our partner's.
A couple who can argue well need not worry when they do not agree on anything.
A good argument provides opportunities for both partners to understand each other better, share their feelings and as a result strengthen the relationship when they come to a solution.
6. Touch everyday
Touch generates intimacy. This is important for every living thing.
Research has shown that without touch, many animals and mankind will die at infant stage. Touch can lower the level of blood pressure and stimulates the production of "opiates" and "oxytonin" in the human brain - the two which are important to create closer ties between partners.
Touch can result in a feeling of confort and support as well as being protected and carressed. Touch calms a person and more importantly create happy feelings.
Many realise that even though sexual desire has its ebbs and flows, the need to be touched and carressed is there forever.
7. Accept change
Time moves and every individual will go through change.
This will keep a relationship alive.
Life also changes and often not according to how we want it to be.
Change gives ooportunities to individual to grow and be intimate. At the same time, it can create difficulties and problems.
This means a person has to adapt to new things or situation.
It is also probably means letting go some things that he or she is comfortable and safe with.
In a successful relationship, couple must learn how to adapt to the changing enviroment.
They must accept the fact that change is a part of life and they will help as well as give support to one another.
Happy Marriage
Every relationship requires a strong platform to achieve true and lasting happiness that can overcome adversities and challenges.
Below are some pointers to share which we have learnt during our marriage preparation course.
1. Love one self
Every individual has to love himself before others could love him.
When someone loves himself, with any failings and weaknesses that one had, he or she will feel at peace and confident with him or herself.
This will be a strong platform for a close relation with one's partner.
2. Love your partner
A healthy relationship is built if couples truly love one another.
Feelings of love usually conjure some romantic emotions but love is an emotion that has its ups and downs.
If couples truly love each other, comfortable with the thinking and habits of one another, possess the same hope and aspiration, the relationship will not be devoid of any deep and lasting love.
It is also important for one partner to express his love for another.
Tender words of encouragement and support with love will help built trust and respect between partners.
3. Making quality time
We usually give more time to important things.
At the onset of the relationship, couples automatically allow more time to be together. However, after getting married, and have children and bogged down by daily routine and work, time together become limited and far and between.
If couples do not spend time to be together, there is a possibility that the relationship will grow apart.
Allocating time together means giving up some other activities. However, it is an investment that will result in happiness and reap good rewards.
4. Communicate between partners
A good and effective communication is important in any health relationship.
Having good communication will enable you to tell your partner about yourself and your desire.
With communication, you and your partner can understand each other better.
A good communication will enable a person to express oneself openly and sincerely on matters close to the heart.
It also requires a person to hear what the partner has to say without maing judgements.
5. Argue well
Disagreement in marriage is normal.
It is important for couples to accept that each of us have attributes which are unique and different from our partner's.
A couple who can argue well need not worry when they do not agree on anything.
A good argument provides opportunities for both partners to understand each other better, share their feelings and as a result strengthen the relationship when they come to a solution.
6. Touch everyday
Touch generates intimacy. This is important for every living thing.
Research has shown that without touch, many animals and mankind will die at infant stage. Touch can lower the level of blood pressure and stimulates the production of "opiates" and "oxytonin" in the human brain - the two which are important to create closer ties between partners.
Touch can result in a feeling of confort and support as well as being protected and carressed. Touch calms a person and more importantly create happy feelings.
Many realise that even though sexual desire has its ebbs and flows, the need to be touched and carressed is there forever.
7. Accept change
Time moves and every individual will go through change.
This will keep a relationship alive.
Life also changes and often not according to how we want it to be.
Change gives ooportunities to individual to grow and be intimate. At the same time, it can create difficulties and problems.
This means a person has to adapt to new things or situation.
It is also probably means letting go some things that he or she is comfortable and safe with.
In a successful relationship, couple must learn how to adapt to the changing enviroment.
They must accept the fact that change is a part of life and they will help as well as give support to one another.
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